5 Ways To Find Instant Calm

Tension and anxiety go hand in hand. We all suffer from it at some point in our lives, but it’s how we respond to it that is important. Try the following 5 ways to find instant calm when you feel anxious or can’t relax.

1. Take the information from your mind and put it onto paper

Sometimes when we go to bed, we suddenly find ourselves thinking about everything that happened during our day and also think about everything we need to do the following day.

The easiest way to eliminate these thought patterns is to write it down. By keeping notebook by your bed, you can write down everything that is worrying you and “remove it” from your mind.

2. Simply Relax

Switch off all electronics (computer, TV, phone etc). Electronics have a way of triggering our brains to stay alert and active. Pick up a book and read a few pages. Concentrate on the words on the pages.

3. Deep Breathing

I know, you’ve heard it all before, “Breathe through it”. But it’s true, deep breathing calms the senses. It calms your body, releases toxins, releases tension, relaxes the mind and also relieves pain.

Take the time to sit quietly, breathe in deeply and breathe out fully. Inhale through your nose, not your mouth. Inhale for four to five seconds and exhale for four to five seconds. When breathing, count the seconds in your mind. By focusing in the breath, your mind will begin to relax.

4. Positive Affirmations

Affirmations may not be for everyone but they are a way in which to bring positivity to an otherwise negative feeling. An affirmation is a statement you can say to yourself to help you feel better.  Affirmations can be extremely powerful.

Words such as:

“I am cool, calm and collected”

“Inhale the calm, exhale the tension”

“Everything is great in my world”

“Life is wonderful”

Find an affirmation that is personal and meaningful to you.

5 Ways To Find Instant Calm

5. Calming Visualisations

Picture yourself in your favourite place. Maybe it’s on the beach, soaking up the sunshine and listening to the waves. Perhaps it’s in the forest, listening to the birds. Perhaps it’s sitting by the river, watching the water flow slowly by. Whatever your favourite place, close your eyes and think of it. Immerse yourself there.

By seeing yourself in a place of tranquility you will find yourself feeling much better about things.

Have you tried any of these techniques? Are there any others you love to use?

I’d love to hear your thoughts.

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12 replies
  1. Debra
    Debra says:

    Thanks for this Dee, a great reminder of the simple techniques that can work. The simplest of all is just deep breathing and switching off all technology and reading a book. I don’t have much trouble sleeping thankfully as I’m usually pretty knackered! I probably don’t get as much sleep as I should but that’s a whole other thing.

    Really liked the discussion above too about creating calm when kids are challenging! Deep breaths again and focusing on what’s going on, talking to your kids calmly and bringing them to focus too.

    • Dee
      Dee says:

      Sometimes the simplest techniques are the best or most effective. We certainly don’t need to overthink things to reach our goal. Thanks for commenting Debra 🙂

  2. CherylAnn
    CherylAnn says:

    Some of these methods have worked really well for me! Even if they haven’t helped me to get back to sleep, they have helped me feel better about being awake. Calming visualizations and getting things written down are especially helpful. I’ve also found that sometimes I just need to get up, take care of a task that is weighing me down, and then go back to bed. Often times, if I take care of something that is on my mind, that does the trick! One of the hardest parts about sleeplessness is the stress we feel when we can’t go back to sleep, so having some lovely, calming tools is so helpful! Thanks for the list!

    • Dee
      Dee says:

      Hi CherylAnn. I agree that it’s better to get out of bed and busy yourself with something rather than lying there thinking about stuff, this works for me too. I sometimes find myself thinking too much that doing something mundane (dishes anyone?) is enough to send me back to bed 🙂

  3. Wendy
    Wendy says:

    I find during times at my life when I am anxious, I end up waking up in the middle of the night, thinking about everything!

    Wide awake, can’t sleep. For hours.

    I would finally just get up, and try to distract myself for a while until I stopped worrying about whatever I was worrying about… but then that’s hard because I would miss out on tons of sleep 🙁

    I’m going to try your methods next time. My default way of distracting myself is with a computer!

    Which doesn’t work very well lol.

    Journaling is something I have done before, and as long as I remember to do it *before* bedtime, it works for me. If I wait until bedtime then it gets me thinking about everything for sure! But writing it down is magical in getting it out of your head somehow! I don’t know how that works!

    • Dee
      Dee says:

      Trust me Wendy, I have been there too and there is nothing more frustrating than laying awake thinking about everything, right? Try these methods (maybe not all at once though :)) I’m sure you will find one that helps you.

      FYI I am still guilty of using the computer when I can’t sleep. And always have problems getting back to sleep when I do :/

  4. Lehua
    Lehua says:

    Great reminders, Dee! I love doing a combination of these… having them in my personal “toolkit of calm” really helps. Kieta’s comment about technology is so important too.. unplugging every once in awhile, especially during certain times (e.g., dinner, focus time) can bring more calm into our lives.

    I once attended a seminar where we practiced visualizing our personal workshop. The workshop could be anywhere, real or imaginary, but we could tweak it to however we wanted as a place to visualize our dreams/the work we’re setting out to do/etc. I created my perfect work space using this technique, and have found that it helps to have a personal space like this workshop where I can do my visualizations and reflect on what’s going on in my life, what I want to achieve… and when I want to simply relax! 🙂

    I’m also a very musical person, so having playlists with the right music ahead of time helps a bunch too. For instance, I have one for when I need inspiration, and one for when I want to work out and kick some butt.

    Thanks for sharing!

    • Dee
      Dee says:

      Thanks so much Lehua, your “toolkit” of calm sounds like an amazing idea. I must try this. Yes, technology whilst helpful has become a hindrance as well. I also love your idea of a playlist prepared for the right situation.

  5. Malissa
    Malissa says:

    Great post Dee – finding calm also encourages conversation between people in thoughtful and meaningful ways. Plus it can greatly expand our message to people when where coming from it in a neutral way. I know that even when my kids are challenging me – i get better results in changing their behaviour the calmer I am.
    Have a magic day xx

    • Dee
      Dee says:

      Exactly Malissa, I find it very disturbing that the younger ones (teens etc) seems to not know how to hold a personal conversation any more since they are always on their phones. As always, take a deep breath when around kids 🙂 Sometimes we have to take a step back and focus before reacting.

  6. Kieta
    Kieta says:

    I totally agree about turning off electronics… It’s 4 in the morning and I grabbed my phone… Voila, I’m up reading blog posts, Way more alert than I would prefer. 🙂 On the upshot, I did have a long nap during the day yesterday so I’m not actually tired but I’ve definitely robbed myself of needed sleep with my phone a time or 100.

    I often think that it would be lovely to have a day off from Allllll electronics but I have yet to implement. This week, I’m going to choose a few electronic free hours, since a whole day has not felt possible to me. Thanks for the reminder!

    • Dee
      Dee says:

      Hi Kieta, yes, I agree, electronics are definitely a major culprit these days, it’s like we are always on call and can never take a breather. Taking that initial step to schedule an “electronic detox” can be difficult to many. A couple of hours a day is a good place to start.


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